On Track

That is exactly how I am starting to feel! The month of July with all events really threw me for a loop. It affect everything from budgeting to couponing. August started with a bang, Matt lost his job July 27th so by the end of the week, we were starting to make plans. One of the best decisions that we made was to go ahead with our week of vacation. But that in itself also messed up the developing schedule. At that point I decided at least for August to work as many hours as humanly possible for me after vacation. Both Amanda and Haley started school a week apart as well. I decided that after vacation, I would try and get a sense of normalcy back in our lives. But I forgot that Zach’s birthday party had been schedule so we had to pull it together. Finally just this week things are starting to slow down. Tonight it occurred to me that wow we might just make this work. So I wanted to make a list of the areas that we are focusing on and changing with out new arrangements.

The first major obstacle with Matt losing his job has now been solved. We were able to purchase a car. It is a 1999 Chrysler Concorde LSI, it is a very nice car both inside and out. We have found that the driver side floor mat has a hole and the sun visor clip is broken. We paid CASH for the car with the only downside being it has 205000 miles on it. It was a pleasant surprise to find that all three car seat fit across the back easily! So we now have 2 operable vehicles! Once we are able to reduce our debt load we will begin to save in earnest for our next car purchase which hopefully will occur a year from now 🙂

Next in the area of budgeting, I am beginning to coupon shop again. Tonight we made a trip to Harris Teeter to use a coupon they sent me. My goal is to get our food budget down to 600 a month or less by October. Angel food will play a huge roll in this as well but I think it is achievable. The current plan is to start within the month using all of Matt’s unemployment to pay off debt such as credit cards,taxes and outstanding medical bill. The rationale for this is that unemployment is limit so if we can reduce the amount need each month then when this stops we will have a smaller budget overall and also be living on my earning alone. Finally the biggest change that we have agreed on in the area of budget is our tithe and gifts. We will start tithe on the income we receive instead of a “best guess.” This will be deducted first and not included the two gift we currently are giving on a monthly basis.

Finally, after working as much as possible, I have developed a schedule for regular work week which should allow me to be home every evening by 5:30 and earn enough for our current budget. My current plan are for two days a week to be “light” days which will allow for scheduling of doctor’s appointment and other things that have to occur during business hours. I am aware that it will take several weeks for this schedule to be implemented complete but even this week as been much easier for me!

On the right track…exactly how I feel today… now next week this may change

August Month in Review

WOW I am not sure where the month of August went but it has flown by. I wanted to update on the goals that I set in January. Things have changed dramatically so far this year but I am happy to report that I have a feel I am actually going to met some of these goals.

Blogging- I just checked the number of post for the month and it was 14. This is a improvement over both June and July but not my highest so I still have something to aim at. I would like to blog at least 3 times a week with a goal of 5. I am also hoping to return to talking about my good deal that I find as well.

Reading my Bible- I can honestly say that this is the area of biggest improvement this month. I am reading a devotion at least 3 times a week so that is much better that I have been doing. I also know that I need to improve in this area as well but at least there is some improvement.

Preschool with Lily- Matt has taken on this task with me preparing lesson plans and helping him to know which direction to go. Preschool started on August 16th and is occurring at least 3 times a week. In August, I came across an educational store where I purchased a Kindergarten/First grade math work book as well as a Kindergarten book that has a little bit of everything in it. Lily is currently working on writing lower case letter as well. Kendall is beginning to blossom by counting to 10! I think that this will be amazing to see the progress at the end of the year!

budget- UMMM let me see.. this month the budget has undergone some major changes. Our much needed vacation makes it difficult to even get a feel for the money we spent on Groceries. I have also not been in the swing of coupons but hope to get back on trace in September and report awesome improvements!

Random Beach Thoughts

Waiting on 3 small children to fall asleep twice a day at around 1.5 hours each time eats up an ENTIRE day at the beach over the week of vacation.

Said children are so tired by 5:30pm it is torture to keep them awake till 6:30 when the above torture begins..yes we have tried putting them straight to bed and that did not work either.

We have been able to “enjoy” the sunrise all 4 days of our vacation due to the above mention children and their sleeping habits.

Lily enjoyed her first ever game of bowling today with a “winning” score of 137 including 3 separate strikes. She did use both gutter guards and a ball ramp.

Amanda is the worsest bowler in the house only because I “took one for the team” and did not bowl. Haley came in second behind Lily with 3 strikes as well and Matt was third with only 1 strike and several gutter balls.

Zach and Kendall both enjoyed the aquarium this morning much more than I had hoped.

Kendall was afraid to touch anything (shoe crabs, string rays and the costume Shark).

Lily impressed us all and asked to go and visit with the costume Shark, she earned a tattoo for this request.

It is possible to entertain 4 children at the beach without any toys for almost 2 hours. In fact we have enjoyed this time for the past 2 days.

And to finish out the 10 random beach thoughts….I can say without a doubt the Krispy Kreme donuts are far better than Dunkin Dounuts!

Lily’s Beach Adventure

Monday morning was really the first time that we had planned to spend time at the ocean. We did go out on Sunday evening after we arrived but only for about an hour. So Monday, I was very pleased with how smoothly things were going. I had packed a lunch for everyone, we remembered Zach’s pacifier and the plan was to spend ¾ of the day sitting on the beach. I asked Amanda and Haley to watch the little girls while Matt and I set up Zach’s little tent. They all headed to the ocean with out a second thought. About 3 minutes later Amanda and Kendall came back to get the sand toys. I didn’t give it a second thought because I assumed Lily was with Haley. After walking half way back to the beach, Amanda turned and asked where Lily was. I was still thinking with Haley until we spotted Haley in the water. Amanda and I both start looking for Lily as did Haley when I got her out. Amanda actually went to the lifeguard. Lily was no where to be found. I had walk between the 3 closest lifeguard stands without locating her. The lifeguard sent out a page down the beach including what suit she was wearing. Amanda was extremely panicked at this point. As I was walking down the beach looking for her I could barely scan ahead of me because of people asking if they could help look. The lifeguard told me that “in the case of small children they usually follow the current.” I disagreed but just kept walking. The lifeguard then sent a little cart so we could drive and look for her. As I got in the cart, the call came in that she had been found. Where? 4 lifeguard stands in the opposite direction from the current. So what happened?

According to Lily she was following Amanda but “she would not hold my hand.” I pieced together that Lily poor eyesight combined with the fact we had just gotten to the beach and she had not gotten familiar with it or with what everyone was wearing, Lily started following someone else down the beach by mistake. The whole ordeal lasted no longer than 10 minutes but was enough to scare us and for us to not let anyone out of sight again! The rest of the day was almost perfect, we spent 4 hours on the beach!

My Birthday Post

If things work out, meaning that I am able to get a strong enough wireless signal in my hotel room, I will be posting this on my birthday from our family vacation in Myrtle Beach SC. I will admit that my Monday Menu post is absent this week and my intention is to blog about vacationing on a budget and enjoyment instead of Wordless Wednesday. I had planned to schedule both these post on Saturday and Sunday of last week but they were on the bottom of the short list that did not get accomplished. But now on to the fun stuff…how I spent my 38th birthday.

Our budget was that we were going to eat out one time a day while at the beach, however I really don’t like cold cereal and or pop tarts so I decided that I would eat out twice for my birthday. This morning, I was awake at 6am and so were the little ones. I did fall asleep around 8:40 last night so I was WIDE awake. Matt, myself and the little ones went to Cracker Barrel for breakfast. It was an awesome meal. We came back and went to the beach. Today, spent about 15 minutes riding the waves ALONE. That was cool. Because of a shower, we came back to the room for lunch and nap. The little ones are having a really hard time going down to sleep it is taking around an hour before they all fall asleep, I consider this a TORTURE. I spent naptime using the slowest internet in the world……..

This afternoon, we (the entire family) went to Broadway on the Beach. Dinner at Hard Rock Café was an experience. The girls manage to embarrass me…. announcing to the entire restaurant my age. We spent an hour shopping around. Lily had a $25 gift card to Build a Bear where she bought a bathing suit and outfit including shoes and got a bag as well. I also used some of my birthday money to purchase a couple of necklaces. Tonight, I am hoping to get a couple of blog post up, read the first four chapters of John for quizzing and watch some mindless tv.

All in all an awesome birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YUCK

When I originally thought about this post in my head it was going to be an upbeat but honest reflection of how difficulty the transition has been for me. Last week on Tuesday, I went from the stay at home mostly full time parent to working enough to support our household. But once again Life has a change in mind. About Midnight of Monday, I started feeling yucky which soon lead to a stomach virus. Matt followed shortly behind me and Lily an hour later. So this morning instead of having time to blog and tell about how it is working for us, I am waiting till Matt wakes up so I can lay back down. Kendall and Zach both have had some awful diapers already but Lily is better. I hope this is less than 24 hours

A Dime

My intention was to place a picture of a dime at the top of this post, unfortunately I could not figure out how to do it so just pretend…

I had never really thought a lot about a dime or even find one until the Sunday after Remington’s funeral. My parents (Granny and Paw paw) came over to see the little kids. They had been to the cemetery earlier and were excited upon returning to the car to find a dime in the front seat of the car. Why were they excited? Granny proceeded to tell all of us that she had been told by her mother as a young child that when someone died that if you found money in unexpected place that was a sign from them that first they were safe and happy then secondly that they loved you and wanted you to know this fact. I was kind of skeptic at first. Haley was the first to find her dime, Amanda also found one the next day. Lily found 2 which she happily says it was one for her and one for Kendall. As you can see, we believe that it is a dime that Remington chooses to leave for us. Matt found his first one in the washer. I have currently found 3. The first was on the end table in the living room, the second was at the foot of our bed on the covers and the third was by far the strangest and the most unexplained. I was working with a patient at the nursing home and she decide to remove her jacket. I had her clean out her pocket before folding it up. Her pocket contained 3 things.. a safety pin, a Kleenex and the dime. Patients do not usually have any money with them and a dime what are the odds. I personally don’t believe in odds or fate so this was my sign. We all keep our eyes open for dimes and each one puts a smile on a face as well as a tear in some eyes. Small things help me remember and go on!

July in Review

Let me just say out loud that July 2010 has been the worst month in my entire life! I honestly didn’t think it would ever end. Low points of the month include the week of Remington’s death, Matt losing his job and the dishwasher completely not working. So is anyone surprised that I have came even close on any of my goals?
The one thing that I have improved on is my devotions because honestly God is the only one support and carrying us right now! I am able to spend time at least 2 a week and usually 3 to 4. I am encouraged by a devotional book that Haley bought me at Life.

I have spent around 800 again on groceries this month that is on top of all the wonderful food we have been blessed with. But the bright side of that is that our freezer is of officially full and we should be able to reduce the grocery budget in August even with our beach trip!

I have only blogged 12 times including this post.

Preschool is on summer vacation!

Now for an update and plan/idea of what is going on over here! Matt is officially unemployed and as we had established as our plan 3 years ago, he will become the full time daddy and housekeeper. I already have in the works a part-time position that will guarantee me 16 hours a week and full benefits. I also plan to continue working a second position for around 12-16 hours a week depending on what they want and how busy my schedule is. We are confident that this will allow us to not only maintain a budget but actually start to reduce debt and save. I add this to my monthly update as to what we have been able to accomplish. For the month of August, the goal is to go on vacation, find a second car for me to drive and met the budget we establish prior to him being unemployed. Matt will be taking over the responsibility of teaching Lily to read but I am still going to do a “preschool” time with her to work on writing and math. I am excited to get these details in place! If you are reading then please pray for us these first weeks of August that we establish a routine and find peace and comfort in it!

Treading Water

I know I need to write something but exactly what to blog is kinda of like answering the question “So how are you guys doing?” Let me first say that I can not imagine going through this with out the love and support of our family and friends. Each time I am asked this question, I am reminded how much we are cared and prayed for. But I am still trying to come up with a response. I guess part of the problem is I really don’t know. Matt and I have returned to work, which means the little kids are spending time at home with Haley babysitting. We are attempting to plan our trip to the beach. Amanda is going out with friends. So we are somewhat returning to normal. But that does not mean we are okay or forgotten or even dealt with the grief. It simply means that just as Life goes on so must we. Lily is starting to have some behavior issues, I am sure that they are part due to the horrible sleep schedule she has been on the past 2 weeks. The other reason is that she feels a loss and is dealing with it like a 4 year old. Both Kendall and Zach have a nasty cold. Last night was the first night in a week that Kendall did not wake up several times, we decided that she could not suck her pacifier and breath at the same time and gave her medicine.
So in a nut shell treading water describes our life right now.